Babe,
Five years ago today (it was a Friday, in fact) you became my husband. So much has changed in those five years, but I think we've done a pretty good job muddling through it all. I know I'm not the most expressive person when it comes to conveying my feelings, but I really want you to know how much I do love and appreciate you.
I knew pretty early on that you were the man I was supposed to marry. The first clue was shortly after we began dating, I found myself daydreaming one day about having children with you. I had no interest in having children, and seeing you with kids made me feel like my previous decision had been because I just never felt I had a suitable partner. There were many other things that helped me to know you were the one. You fit in seamlessly with my family and they have adored you from the first time they met you. Your commitment and loyalty to your family, your sensitivity, the way you treated me with respect...I could go on and on about why I chose to marry you.
I can't imagine being married to me. I'm an irritable, easily annoyed, cynical know-it-all....and that's when I'm NOT pregnant. You are very tolerant of me, and I'm hoping my good qualities outweigh what a pain in the rear I am. How you have survived two pregnancies with me, I'll never know.
You have consistently supported me when other people have been critical and judgmental. You put me through school and have supported my dream to continue on in my education. You trust in my research when making decisions for our children, even when things may seem a bit unconventional compared to how we grew up. You put your faith in me as a mother to raise our children. You have taken on the burden of getting up every morning and going to work to support our family in order for our children to have a mother at home with them.
You have proven to be an amazing father from the very beginning. Although you nearly passed out while I was delivering Vivien, you really were not squeamish when it came to decision-making in her first hours. I felt relieved that you were able to step up and make some very difficult decisions and advocate for our daughter while I was stuck in the other hospital feeling helpless and scared. Bringing her home was so intimidating, but you were so helpful with keeping the house in order and working her feeding pump. I know that the transition to me being a stay-at-home mom to care for her was hard on both of us, but I was glad when you came around on why it's so beneficial for her to have a mom home with her. Both of us came from homes with strong working moms, so it was an adjustment for both of us without a doubt.
We have really had our hands full with this little girl. And this pregnancy has been really hard on me. I know I have been miserable and it's been difficult on you. You have gone above and beyond to help me with Vivien and care for me when I've been ill. I appreciate every single thing you do. From the second you get home, you are on the clock with Vivien. You allow me to get some rest and put my feet up. I know you are exhausted, but you are so good with giving her a bath every night and tucking her in. And lately, our evenings have been rather colorful and frustrating with a mischievous little girl. But I know we will make it through this too.
I don't want you to ever think that the things you do go unnoticed or unappreciated. I may not be great at verbalizing, but I feel it in my heart and try to show you in other ways. If we've made it through these past 5 event-filled years, I'm sure we can make the long haul.
I love you with all of my heart. Thank you for giving our family such a blessed life.